Jun 09 2009
According To The Bible – I May Not Be A Good Wife
I’m a wife, not a mother. I may never be a mother, by choice. If I read the Bible, and believe it, I’m nothing more than a maid, and child birthing vessel. So. Awesome. It even says it in a way that should feel like a promotion… ‘leader of the home.’ But, then I look closer, and find out that the man is the ‘leader of his wife.’ Even. more. awesomeness.
Am I glad that I never let that viewpoint hold me back. Even deep in my Christian faith, I didn’t think this could possibly be correct. Perhaps this was the beginning of my questioning… as I got older, I couldn’t make it line up. I wanted to go to college, have a career, maybe or maybe not get married, maybe (but probably not) have kids. I didn’t want any of the things that the Bible said women were put here to do.
Some churches skirt past this topic, but it is all over the Bible, and it is very clear. If one believes the Bible is perfect, and God’s actual words, then this same person, whether they like it or not, believes what I stated in the first paragraph.
“Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands, as is appropriate for those who belong to the Lord.” – Colossians 3:18
“Encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored.” – Titus 2:4-5
“get married, bear children, keep house.”- 1 Timothy 5:14
One response so far
Rather than skirting away from the issue, as you mentioned, a lot of churches actually try to make it sound like a good thing. It’s striking just how far people will go to justify things.
I don’t understand how someone can make justifications for a book that says women simply aren’t as good as men. It really feels just as the sections that permit slavery, child abuse, and all of the other things that primitive men thought was okay. It’s all along the same vein.
If it’s not okay to still sell your daughters into slavery, then what makes it okay to tell her to submit to a man for the rest of her life? Where in the Bible does it make the distinction?